Relationship in itself is a very heavy word to begin with. Many couples have taken their differences aside and have moved on being away from each other on the basis of commitment issues from one of the members. To hold on to a relationship is the most difficult part in comparison to being in one. Two like minded people meet, they connect with each other, things move on at a desired pace and they find themselves sooner or later in a situation where they introduce each other as their partner. But the thoughtful part of being in a relationship is when you are going through the toughest and possibly the lowest time of your life and you are able enough to sort things out in your open-relationship alongside. It counts that you receive your partner’s support during this troubling time but also it takes your own effort to grab your pieces from around and recollect yourself for the sake of your partner. Every person is not the same and to expect same kinds of behavior from your partner thinking that your friend’s spouse/partner has been doing this for him/her is sheer stupidity. Be yourself and let your partner be true to themselves as well because when you are trying to twist someone too much there is a possibility that they will retaliate midway, not everybody accepts getting changed and the resistance can be devastating. We have for you some simply yet, thought-provoking ideas to understand your relationship well and have the energy to live happily along with your partner.
1. NEVER GO FOR COMPARISON:
Comparison is good only if you’re talking about commodities. Yes, toilet paper of company A is much better than that of company B and is cheaper too, this is good. But to say, your best friend’s girlfriend is better because she lets her partner out every weekend to enjoy with the guys in-comparison to you who act too clingy all the time.
- Nobody likes to be called clingy. You would hate the word if you tried to put yourself in the situation
- Not every girl thinks the same or has the same amount of attachment with their partners. Maybe your best friend's girl friend is not that into him and is planning onto dump him.Think before you speak.
- There might be something wrong that you do when out with the guys that bothers your girlfriend to the extent that she doesn't like you hanging out too much with them.
. 2. THINK
BEFORE YOU SPEAK WHEN YOU’RE ANGRY:
Anger pretty much messes up every
healthy relationship. If you’re short tempered chances are that you will be
having a tough time locking up your tongue and since you get mad pretty often
you might be hurting your partner a little more than their expectation. Nobody
deserves to be scolded every time for forgetting to keep the door open or for
not reminding you of something. Everyone is much of a human as you are and they
function the same way so if they forget something its part of them being
natural and not mechanic.
- Learn
to be tolerant and be very critical of your own words.
- The
tongue is like a canon and once you let it lose anything that it does is
damage. The time you need next to reconstruct what you have destroyed is
immeasurable.
- Things that you
control while angry are the things that are the least important to be said and
this is what you realize after your anger subsides.
. 3. EAT,
SLEEP, LAUGH TOGETHER:
It doesn’t really matter for how
long you have been in a relationship. What matters is that you still need to be
with each other in the same way as you used to be when you first started seeing
each other. Dates should be a rule within your relationship. Kids can spend some
time with any family member or friends living nearby and it’s not that you will
be gone for too long. A good date can be as short as grabbing a couple of ice
creams or sundaes from McDonalds.
- Dates
aren’t necessary to be expensive, only the thought and the time spent together
matter.
- Even
if you’re mad at each other after going through an argument, do not leave your
room or your bed. You both own that space and you shouldn’t let it go that
easily.
- Occasional hanging
out with the friends and colleagues is fine but try not to turn it into a habit
and come home with a stuffed stomach every night. Your partner might have not
eaten for too long just so they can spend that time with you discussing your
day’s long activity.
1 4. TRY
TO 4FIT IN EACH OTHER’S SHOES:
Men blame women for not doing
much throughout the day and women on the other hand blame men for being couch
potatoes who have no hand in cleaning up the mess that they make. Men, be aware
of the fact that women do not simply sit and watch TV back at home while you
are gone. There are tons of things that need to be done in order for you to
find the place in the same shape as you left it in the morning. Also if you
have kids then you sure don’t have even a bit of an idea for what happens
behind your back.
- Men
drive, yes they do but they are not born to drive the whole time and with
today’s traffic the stress that men go through is intense. Try getting behind
the wheel more often to understand what they go through every time you mention
going to the mall.
- On
the contrary, women cook all the time and it isn’t as easy as it might look to
you. So next time when you request a Turkey off the Thanksgiving season make
sure you get off of that couch and help her in the process, to know what
exactly a turkey goes through during the cooking phase.
5. DON’T
LET GO OF THE MANNERS:
You will definitely have come to
the point that you are doing everything in the utmost comfort of your partner.
There aren’t any secrets, any guilt or embarrassment for the things you or your
partner does. This is what love does to you but what love requires is that you
never stop appreciating each other and start taking each other for granted. You
like telling your partner to grab a glass of water for you if they are going to
use the washroom but they aren’t paid slaves to do that for you every time they
get up to do anything and it also pretty much sounds like ordering away.
- You
need to understand the value of the words ‘Please’ and ‘Thank you’, both of
which are taught tirelessly during the kindergarten years.
- This
actually adds a flavor of love to whatever you ask your partner of and even if
they have been tired of the whole day’s work they would still love to do it for
you if you add in the ‘please’ with it.
Appreciate what your partners do
for you. Not everyone is lucky enough to have someone to love them and look
after them when they are broken and alone. To have love is the luckiest thing
in the world and if you go on being unappreciative and unsupported of the one
person who cares the most for you then in reality they don’t really deserve you
in their lives.
I will love it if you can add your own opinions or questions, i will gladly answer them. Thanks to the CEO of this wonderful blog for allowing my guest post on his blog site.
Senior Writer for OLWOMEN.com, an avid reader,
fashion and make up enthusiast who simply lives to write and talk about all
kinds of stuff. Focusing on open-relationship rules and how to
maintain long distance relationship these days!
