I want parents to understand something, becoming a parent is not just giving birth or training them in school, there are many other things you need to be doing. They include
BE YOUR CHILD'S FRIEND: Many at times parents do not talk nor discuss with there children which have in so many ways destroyed the future of the kids, some are even afraid of their parents which is not good, why not make them friends, go out wit them etc by so doing you can be able to impact knowledge to them and they can be able to leak some of their secret to you and you will guild them on what to do.
TAKE CHARGE: Children crave limits, which help them understand and manage an often confusing world. Show your love by setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely.
DON'T BE TOO LOVING "It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love," he writes. "What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love -- things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions."
PICK YOUR BATTLES: Kids can't absorb too many rules without turning off completely. Forget arguing about little stuff like fashion choices and occasional potty language. Focus on the things that really matter -- that means no hitting, rude talk, or lying.
DON'T TRY TO FIX EVERYTHING: Give young kids a chance to find their own solutions. When you lovingly acknowledge a child's minor frustrations without immediately rushing in to save her, you teach her self-reliance and resilience.
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BE YOUR CHILD'S FRIEND: Many at times parents do not talk nor discuss with there children which have in so many ways destroyed the future of the kids, some are even afraid of their parents which is not good, why not make them friends, go out wit them etc by so doing you can be able to impact knowledge to them and they can be able to leak some of their secret to you and you will guild them on what to do.
TAKE CHARGE: Children crave limits, which help them understand and manage an often confusing world. Show your love by setting boundaries so your kids can explore and discover their passions safely.
DON'T BE TOO LOVING "It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love," he writes. "What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love -- things like leniency, lowered expectations, or material possessions."
PICK YOUR BATTLES: Kids can't absorb too many rules without turning off completely. Forget arguing about little stuff like fashion choices and occasional potty language. Focus on the things that really matter -- that means no hitting, rude talk, or lying.
ADAPT YOUR PARENTING TO FIT CHILD. Keep pace
with your child's development. Your child is growing up. Consider how age is
affecting the child's behavior.
"The same drive for independence that is making your
three-year-old say 'no' all the time is what's motivating him to be toilet
trained," writes Steinberg. "The same intellectual growth spurt that is
making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making
her argumentative at the dinner table."
For example: An eighth grader is easily distracted, irritable.
His grades in school are suffering. He's argumentative. Should parents push him
more, or should they be understanding so his self-esteem doesn't suffer?
"With a 13-year-old, the problem could be a number of
things," Steinberg says. "He may be depressed. He could be getting too
little sleep. Is he staying up too late? It could be he simply needs some help
in structuring time to allow time for studying. He may have a learning problem.
Pushing him to do better is not the answer. The problem needs to be diagnosed
by a professional."
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DON'T TRY TO FIX EVERYTHING: Give young kids a chance to find their own solutions. When you lovingly acknowledge a child's minor frustrations without immediately rushing in to save her, you teach her self-reliance and resilience.
BE INVOLVED IN YOUR CHILD'S LIFE: "Being an
involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and
rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to
do for what your child needs to do. Be there mentally as well as
physically."
Being involved does not mean doing a child's homework --
or reading it over or correcting it. "Homework is a tool for teachers to
know whether the child is learning or not," Steinberg tells WebMD. "If
you do the homework, you're not letting the teacher know what the child is
learning."
REMEMBER THAT DISCIPLINE IS NOT PUNISHMENT: Enforcing limits is
really about teaching kids how to behave in the world and helping them
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